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ADMIRATION:

Purpose:
To bring about growth through the desire to emulate desirable qualities. True admiration, if pure, brings joy.

Distortions:
Greed, and then Competition, then Jealousy, then Envy. 

Release:
Envy is a very poisonous combination of anger at the admired one, fear of one's own inadequacy, and grief at the loss of supremacy.

Transformation: 
Forgiveness of self and other(s). Remembrance that one does oneself have the capacity to emulate the quality admired. The decision to develop that quality in one's life. Gratitude and restoration of self-love.

GUILT

Purpose: 
A negative or inharmonious feeling produced by unsound judgment about one's Self , transferred from an awareness of an unsound action or thought, which is to help one to recognise when one has been "off target" or in error, and to get back on target again. More than that is an illusion created by faulty perception of the Self.

Distortions:
*  Excessive remorse, or regret beyond what gets us back on target. "Feeling bad about feeling bad". There is a belief that one has failed to meet a demand placed upon one by the Source of life, oneself, or others in a situation. There is an assumption that because one has not met this presumed demand, one must suffer lost love. This can be followed by bringing about the self-punishment that one believes (from past indoctrination or the mass unconscious) is deserved and necessary to pay for the wrong done. . This could be done physically, emotionally, mentally, by holding back one's own growth, or by engaging in negative relationships. It is most often done almost if not totally unconsciously.

*  False guilt can be felt by children who blame themselves for the wrong behaviour of adults ("I must be bad or these bad things would not be happening around me"). "I do not deserve....to get well,......... to be forgiven...etc"

*  Self-hatred. Self destructive behaviours. Denial, or "forgetting" of one's true Self.

*  Failure to experience guilt even when one has done great harm, often accompanied by the belief that one is in the right. This is one of the characteristics of evil, which seeks to inhibit or destroy the potential for spiritual and other growth of others, while projecting the wrong out onto them. (As in genocide).

Release: 
1-3. To confess one's error to an unconditionally loving person or group (NOT to a collection of critical judges!). The need for an absolutely mature and unconditionally loving team of healers is stressed.

Transform: 
To do the Self-forgiveness of the personality process and restore Self-love once more.

Opportunity: 
Acceptance of oneself as one is at present without condemnation, even though one can see where improvements can be made. Unconditional Love. And the development of precisely the qualities perceived and admired in the other from within one's own self.

It is humanity's task to grow by transforming the distortions of primary, beneficial emotions through forgiveness and creative acts infused with love.
The "problems" we have are opportunities to make choices based in love. All negative emotions are related to love. Anger and fear arise when what we love is threatened. Grief arises when what we love is lost to us. Envy arises when what we love seems inaccessible to us. Guilt arises when we forget to love.
Each negative state in another can be seen as a cry love.
Each negative state in ourselves is also a call to us to give more love.

Think on this:
We are constantly holding on to grudges and resentments that are often devised by the way we look at things. Changing perspective can change us. Most people are too busy with their lives to really be involved in thinking up ways to deliberately harm anyone. If someone has hurt you, you have two options-confront or carry on. Remember: Angry words, cold wars, hurling insults is never the answer. 

Whenever we hold on to our anger, we turn "small stuff" into really "big stuff" in our minds. We start to believe that our positions are more important than our happiness. The way to be happy is to let go and reach out. ( Richard Carlson, author)

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